“Cavendish gave me a lot of reassurance and support; I didn’t feel dependent, I felt encouraged. Cavendish make you feel like you’re in charge, but they are by your side. You’re the driving force and they get behind you to help you achieve.”
Carly was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma at the age of 26: she came to the Cavendish for sessions of reflexology and healing between having treatment and working. She has since become Events Manager at the local Abbeydale Brewery, and has rallied together a team to run in the Sheffield 10k in aid of Cavendish.
I didn’t realise that art therapy is actually quite in-depth psychotherapy. You create images using any kind of media – pictures or clay – and use it to reflect on what it means to you in words, memories or images. This finally gave me a way to vocalise what was inside.
Just knowing you can pick the phone up and talk to someone is incredibly reassuring.
“People didn’t tell me at first that my mum’s cancer was terminal. I came to my own realisation of how ill she was a few of weeks before she passed away.”
Gabriel, 23, lost his mum to cancer when he was just 15 years old. He was supported by Cavendish Cancer Care’s Children and Young Peoples service at the time and since then has volunteered for the speaking team to raise awareness of Cavendish’s work.
With the support that Cavendish have given me, I now feel like I can give some more support out myself. I’m going to come across loss, grief and bereavement. Now I’ve seen both sides to grief and I can use my experience to help others.
I think everyone will know someone who has either suffered from cancer or sadly has cancer themselves, and sometimes its not the cancer that knocks the stuffing out of you but the emotional battle that comes with such a challenging illness. Myself and Toni owe our sanity to one place which has really made a difference that is the Cavendish Centre.
The thing about talking to Cavendish is that it gives you a chance to talk about the embarrassing cancers – bowel, bladder and prostate – you can talk about the nitty gritty you don’t want to talk about it with people you know. That’s a big relief.
Cavendish helped me realise it’s not always about being strong you have to open up. I’m profoundly grateful to them.
“The mental health side of cancer is overlooked. I experienced through what happened to me that the surgeons, urologists and nurses have a job to do and that’s to make me better. The emotional and mental side of it isn’t necessarily their job description. That’s where Cavendish really comes into its element, they’re equally as important as treatment. They go hand in hand.”